Some  years ago an MLC walked into a heavily guarded government building to prove his point that he can bypass security with ease, secondly it was to show that guns are freely and easily available in Mumbai. It was no big deal as it is a well known fact that if you have the money you can buy any and every thing under the sun,only in this case the gun being unlicensed procuring it would not be an easy task for a comman man even if he was filthy rich, he would need to have the right contacts.Now a guy like Sanjay Dutt could do it with ease as he had the money and the contacts and that is precisely what he did. Instead of asking for police protection or a licensed gun for his personal safety he went about contacting his underworld friends for weapons ,unfortunately the timing was wrong, it was during the riots where hundreds of innocent people lost their lives ,because of such people Sunjay was in contact with. Instead of trying to destroy evidence  , If Sanjay had  exercised the option to go to the Police maybe further carnage could be saved what a selfish attitude to think only about himself  and his sisters while Mumbai was burning. A role model to the youth of today.His  family was not made accessory to the fact by trying to ascertain whether they also had  prior knowledge about what  had transpired in the house,In the circumstances he should have gone the TADA way with a life sentence but the law was merciful for convicting him under the arms act and sentencing him for  only six years was an act of mercy which he and his colleagues in the film Industry fails to appretiate. Today the Film Industry is backing him not because of any special love for him but more because of the crores of rupees invested in the movies starring Sanjay and yet to be released.

Instead of  involving the poor subordinate staff  who wouldnt care  to go to an extent of protesting if an actor is in jail  or retires,  because they always get the left overs while the actors take the cream , as long as they get their daily bread they are happy.  so instead of supporting him with a signature campaign the better way would be for his sister to accept moral responsibility by  resigning  from her position  and along with his  close family and so called   very close friends  who have invested in him to petition the court to allow  each one of them to share one year minimum of his prison term so that they can give him support by being really there with him in experiencing the rigours of prison and sharing the trauma he is justly going through and getting to know and become aware of what his actions has done to fellow human beings ,society and the country.

How can we recognize potential friendship? Signs include a mutual desire for companionship and perhaps a common bond of some kind. Beyond that, genuine friendship involves a shared sense of caring and concern, a desire to see one another grow and develop, and a hope for each other to succeed in all aspects of life.With the motto of by helping  you I am helping myself directly or  indirectly to grow into a better person,and thereby lay the foundation to extend my help to other unknown people, strangers who could one day be ‘ potential friends.’  True friendship involves action: doing something for someone else while expecting nothing in return; sharing thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment or negative criticism,receptive to their  ideas  no matter how weird or crazy they may seem,even though we may tend to disagree at times we would never be rude or hurtful in words, thoughts, or deeds to a friend.

True friendship involves relationship, ie: being able to relate to one another Those mutual attributes we mentioned above become the foundation in which recognition transpires into relationship. Many people say, “Oh, he’s a good friend of mine,” yet they never make the effort to spend time with that “good friend.” to get to know him better, Every time they introduce  even casual  acquaintances they say the same thing , ‘ oh he/she is a good friend of mine’ Friendship takes time: time to get to know each other, time to build shared memories, time to invest in each other’s growth.

Trust is essential to true friendship. We all need someone with whom we can share our lives, our feelings,emotions, our thoughts,fears, loneliness,apprehensions, and frustrations.We need someone to share our joys happiness too. We need to be able to share our deepest secrets with someone, without worrying that those secrets will end up on the Internet the next day!  or be a  topic of common gossip.Failing to be trustworthy with those intimate secrets can destroy a friendship in a hurry. Faithfulness and loyalty are key to true friendship. Without them, we often feel betrayed, left out, and lonely. In true friendship, there is no backbiting, no negative thoughts, no turning away, only forgiveness no matter how hard and difficult it may be.One always has to keep in mind that the tongue is so small  and has no bone, but has caused major wars among neighbours,friends,relatives,societies,communities and even  nations have not been spared.

True friendship requires certain accountability factors. Real friends encourage one another and forgive one another where there has been an offense. Genuine friendship supports during times of struggle. Friends are dependable. In true friendship, unconditional love develops. We love our friends no matter what and we always want the best for our friends.

We may have many good friends or only one, we need to  choose wisely, cultivate the friendship with fervour,build up a rapport with them, it could be  your parents, your siblings , your peers, teachers,or other elders,as long as they are well meaning and do have the potential of being good friends to others, then why not you..?

A sum of rs.5000 was given to people  poor and rich alike some of them  suffered huge losses and the amount so given was more an insult to the injury  caused.For some it was better than nothing ,for others it was  disbursing the money without proper verification of documents to the wrong people and the affected  getting nothing.I thought in India the value of life is worth  just rs.5000minimum to rs.50000.maximum on an average about $1200/-a   cost of a cockatel in the states  would  maybe cost more.If   life   is valued so  cheaply than  why not allow people to end  it if they so desire,why not allow guys to ride bikes and travel   in comfort without  wearing cumbersome helmets,let them  zoom and just go boom.But then it does not happen that way laws are necessary so that we get an opportunity to break them  and the  dishonest officials get to line their pockets while the honest ones fill up the government coffers (which are empty for the purpose of election funding) by diligently implementing them. I dont know how  so many  police inclusive of officers can be recruited in the force if their eye sight is weak.i remember an incidentthere was a check for guys without helmets,i was not wearing mine but had it on the bike, the guy stopped me and fined rs.100/- and guess what instead of  giving me a receipt saying not wearing a helmet the charges were w/o helmet,he just could not see the helmet and said he has to charge because of cameras installed,what does the cameras  see  i   wonder.

Coming back to the floods, every one blamed the poor mithi river  for being  narrowed  over the years while the police,bmc and other concerned authorities were snoring during duty hours,dont be surprised its part of their job to sleep on duty  or have some eye sight problem as i mentioned earlier in the helmet issue.Some times  they are overly enthusiastic in doing their duty and catch  couples  at  bandstand  on the rocks  or the promenade, without any complaints,moral policing you  know at other times they simply say without a formal  complaint we cant do a thing  and the best part is even their  top bosses say the same., which means no complaints no  official policing.

There was a big shake up as the administration, the babus, the politicians made all sorts of promises to see that such an incident like the floods  never occurs again.Then came 2007 and the same thing happened all over again,only the severity was less as the rains decided to give us a respite.but the fear was in the minds of the  people and voiced openly no trust in  the administration, mumbaikars  live in fear  yet the PM sitting in the safety of his office surround by security calls mumbaikars  a brave lot ,because with all that happens the floods,the bombings,we still dare to venture out, do we have a choice

your husband is the same person you found attractive enough to marry so many years ago. Your perception of him has changed. today you look at him with critical eyes and find him full of holes and considers him a sponge. what if he suddenly gets a million dollars lottery. would you still percieve him the same way.try to build his self esteem discuss matters with him show him you still have faith in his abilities and see the change taking place. remember you see what you expect to see and your husband is helping you to do that because that is what you expect of him.Change your perception and see the difference.God Bless

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The police have done such an outstanding  job, of investigating crime  in the city of Mumbai  that the Dy. C.M. Mr. R.R.Patil said thay they deserve a pay hike.We should all  agree with the Honble Minister.How can you expect a policeman to work 12 hours shift , many a times  without weekly offs , live on vadapav as his meal,and the paltry salary the government has been paying them , how can they make ends meet, they to have a family to support.

It suddenly struck me that they are not a bad lot,maybe their jobs require them to act bad  so that they can relate to the baddies,and solve crimes,and in the bargain if they happen to treat every one as criminals we should not make a hue and cry about it.

Some times when they are caught for curruption,or rape or delay in doing their duties or  some other offence we fail to realize that they are poorly paid,or take into consideration their long hours of duty, without weekly offs, the stress they have to go through   and at once are  ready to criticize them , people tell me  that maybe they do not know the hardships and their salary prior to joining the force,and as such are not to be blamed.

The pressure the police face from their bosses, the politicians  and the media sometimes compell  them to resort to unethical means to solve crimes,as a judge apprised the new police commissioner  of Mumbai Mr. Dhanajay Jadhav by sending him an order of the judgement, of implicating the innocent in a murder case,even when the identity of the deceased is not confirmed but then this is an isolated case and need not reflect on the police force.

The law says innocent  unless proved  guilty, and  people say this should be applicable not only to the judiciary but also the police ,but it is not feasible  or practicable where investigations are concerned  I sincerely hope that the proposed pay hike will  reduce if not eradicate corruption andmake them better human beings.